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 Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:31 pm Post subject: Most unexpected thing that has happened in your life. |
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What is the most unexpected thing that has ever happened in your life? Did something happen that caught you totally by surprise, good or bad?
My most unexpected thing that happened to me was, we got a call one September day in 2003 and it was children and youth services from Colorado on the phone, there question was did we want to get our grand daughter out of foster care. Grand daughter that we did not even know we had. Apparently she was in foster care, I won't go into details as to why.
So, like 8 months later, we got the call to come and get her, we sold the Harley and we were on our way. We brought her home a little over 3 years ago and she has been a great addition to our household.
It used to be we went to work and come home, the weekend would roll around and we would hit the party scene. Now we play board games and dress up, LOL, we made a decision to quit drinking and living that life style when we decided to take her. We adopted her in Jan, 2006, and she is the focus of our lives now.
She is so much fun, she is her own little person with her own little attitude and personality. I did not have any children, her father is my husbands son through another marriage. I did not plan on having any, but I would not trade her for the world. She has taught me so much in life, but the most important thing that she has taught me is that just when you think you know how love feels, something like this happens and you get to feel the real thing! I don't use these words every day, but it feels AWESOME! |
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| Goodnatured, what a great story, this is one that I will have to think about and revisit it, I will come back time and time again to read the stories that get posted here, I bet there will be some good ones. |
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| I hope that people share some good stories here, I look forward to reading them as well, look forward to reading yours too erb, so put on your thinking cap and post something here. lol. |
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| I financed my first house at 54 years old, don't know if that is a very good one, but it was very unexpected to me that I would be prepared to do this. Should have done it along time ago. I will seriously have to think and get back to you on this one. |
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WHAT? WAIT! I can't even go on to your question yet...
| Quote: | | Grand daughter that we did not even know we had. |
How is that possible? | Quote: | | the most important thing that she has taught me is that just when you think you know how love feels, something like this happens and you get to feel the real thing! |
There is no love like the love a mama has for their child (and she is your child!)....
I've told you before, she too was blessed, not just you and hubby...
I'm gonna have to think on this topic as well...seems I'm one of those people that always have something unexpected happening! 
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They were in New York and then took off to Colorado, we live in Pennsylvania, they would go really long periods of time with out contacting us. We expected them to be productive, drug free, responsible citizens, in other words, we were no fun, so they did not keep in contact with us. We did not know that she was even pregnant until all of this come about. That is how we did not know, they never told us. We found out from the case file that this girl had two other children removed from her home for some really abusive behavior.
They have since split up, she is somewhere in Colorado, he is in New York, they have a younger child, I am getting concerned about her. She used to stay in touch, send birthday cards and christmas cards, this past year nothing. I am so afraid that she is back on the stuff (crystal meth) again. The younger child is now 2 and looks identical to our baby, we thought we would end up with her too. She was pregnant with her when we went out to get this one. I will be contacting children and youth to do a child check soon. They will let me know what is up, I still have contact with the case managers out there. It is such a long, long, long story. |
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| Quote: | | We did not know that she was even pregnant until all of this come about |
WOW! THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE! | Quote: | | they have a younger child, I am getting concerned about her. |
OH NO! Where is this baby do you know? Does the mama have her still? I'll bet you end up with another sweet baby girl...sooner the better probably...You know I dont' mean to sound harsh, but really there should be a law that women like this can't have any more babies...(that repetatively have them taken away)....so sad....but such a happy ending for your sweet girl, and hopefully the others....hope your baby was too young to really 'remember'' much.... 
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They took her from them when she was a week old, one night while mom was at rehab they came and took her. She is fine.
I think she is with her mother, It is hard to tell, she put god parents in place for this one. I am not positive that she is back on the drugs, she was doing so well, but you know all the signs are there, especially the avoidance. When I don't hear from her, I worry. The past has proven me right, I just pray it is not true.
She supposedly moved back to her mothers home town, her mother is a waste, she is the one that got her started on the drugs to begin with. Children and youth out there know where we are, they will contact us if anything strange goes on, if they are still in contact with her, they don't follow up real well. I would think that if you had three taken off of you, keeping number four would not even be an option. Here in Pa, they would have taken her as soon as she was born. |
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| Wow! I almost missed out on this thread. Glad I found it. That is an amazing story.I will have to do some deep thinking for this question. Lots of unexpected things happen to me but not sure some are the type you are looking for.None to top this story. I do have to ask, Goodnatured, you are such a swell person why you didn't want to have children? You don't have to feel like you have to say if it is to personal I understand.Just wondering about that.I can tell you are making the best mom a kid could have! |
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| OK, I think I have one. This is the biggest surprise I can think of.My mom, who was getting on up in age in her late 70's,I received a call from her doctor trying to get in touch with her. We found out she need some testing on her heart.After the test in the hospital we found she had a 99% blockage in her front heart valve. This was a great surprise as we were not prepared for this,She never smoked ,drank and she ate only white meat.She took such good care of herself. She had a hard decision to make .Surgery or wait and have a fatal heart attack. She chose surgery. She had the surgery with 4 of us kids there at the hospital. She came through fine even though it took a long time for her to shake the anesthetic. I kissed her by that late nightsitting up in ICU eating a popsicle.She said"thats the first time since you were small that you did that" little did I know, that would be the last time I would see or hear her voice. She went home 2 days later.I thought that was soon for an elderly woman after having that kind of surgery.But she had 2 adult sons at home she missed.She was a home body and wanted to go home. I think it was the very next night after she went home,my half brother called my sister and said she had fallen in the bathroom and could not get up.She told them to call an ambulance. We met them at the hospital.In the ER I found she had a stroke! The bad thing was they could not give her the blood thinners to help her because she had just had that surgery and it could cause her to bleed to death. That was the greatest surprise or shock I have had .That my mom had a stroke after having the heart surgery.I felt like it was a cruel joke fate played on her.She struggled through that time and lived to be in a nursing home with a tube in her stomach for feeding and in her throat to breath for 2 years. She dies of congestive heart failure at age 80 Feb15 th2004.I stopped smoking the next months. |
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| Another surprise was when My hubby called to tell me my father in-law had lived of a heart attack 10 months after my mom's death.I loved that man and I took it hard. Sorry wish I had a good surprise but can't think of one,maybe I will later. |
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