Ins, If he didn't want to contribute things equally in the beginning (splitting the bills) why should she pay his debt. To me he was a dead beat in the beginning by not being one household,two incomes.
I don't recall in any of this conversation where it was determined that it was the husband's idea of keeping the money and the bills separate.
Did I miss that part?
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Or maybe not what was this 100k spent on? And what about her not having any financial loss experienced in her hubby's death?
It appears that this woman actually made a profit from her husband's death. That was never the intended purpose for a life insurance policy.
We, obviously, don't know whether or not this was a marriage for convenience or the traditional marriage where love actually existed.
When we die, our reputation is all that remains.
Lori, your line of thinking is in tune with mine, now whether that's actually the right way to think is just a matter of opinion.
As far as the credit card companies, yes, they are some of the biggest con artists in our economy today, but normally it is the individual who makes application for the credit card and agrees to abide by the terms and conditions of the card. Most people don't complain when they swipe the numbers off the card at the mall, but only when they get the bill. _________________
"we split the bills" is what she put in the origianl statement. I am assumong they didn't combine their funds. I believe that all bills should just plain be paid and not split up. I guess I was raised old fashioned like that.
I see too many scenarios where one partner doesn't want to help the other and this is what the post sounded like to me. I was assuming this is how it was.
If it pertained to me and my life I would pay. My husband would do the same...we work equally. Now if it was some jack*** I wouldn't care what his name looked like.
...hmmm..split the bills. So...when he died, did she get "his" checking account? If so, there probably isn't a question to if she benefited. _________________ Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. - Ferris Bueller
Lori, your line of thinking is in tune with mine, now whether that's actually the right way to think is just a matter of opinion.
I know, 20 or 30 years ago wouldn't have been any question
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As far as the credit card companies, yes, they are some of the biggest con artists in our economy today, but normally it is the individual who makes application for the credit card and agrees to abide by the terms and conditions of the card. Most people don't complain when they swipe the numbers off the card at the mall, but only when they get the bill.
thank you..bravo _________________ **************************************
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My biggest thing about credit card companies is how they try to lure teenagers into their trap. As soon as my son turned 18 all we got was applications in the mail. I don't even know if that is legal. I was afraid he would fall for it so I went and signed his name (without his knowing) on the opt out place here on the web.
I know it may sound like I took his decision away from him but I took int consideration his train of thought and how he was always taking easy ways out.
Others may disagree, but I think you did the exact right thing...our kids are now 30 and 27, we raised them to think pretty much the sky would fall in if they got a credit card...NEITHER ONE ever got into the trap in fact the 30 year old has NEVER owned a credit card in her life...and the son has one that he intentionally requested that it never be allowed to exceed a 500 limit...for emergencys only....it's sick and sad what happens when these are in the hands of immature 'grown ups' ... I know people my age and older that have several maxed out... _________________ **************************************
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I feel it was good. I think I told you his record and actions so I don't feel bad. I get caught in the credit trap long ago when my first hubby got kidney cancer. He was fighting for SS and we all know how long that can take. We needed something to help with the gas to and from the hospitol and bills. I will never fall into the trap again. We only have two that we had to take out after my accident and we paid faithfully and more than the monthly payment. We only have the one left to go and so we transferred it to a bank loan and then cancelled the card. I am not a credit card fan at all.
