by Guest » Thu Nov 20, 2008 06:13 pm
'Hi I'm currently going to court on aggrivated dui charges, I was drinking at a friends house I did have my nine year child with me. Normally do not drink and drive this was a hot summer day while we were there my friends ac broke and could not stay the night because the ac wasn't going to get fixed the following day. I totally regret getting behind the wheel that I got into a car accident that I cause my daughter was injuried and had to be taken to the hospital not only that their were other miners invold in the other vehical. I wish had made a better choice because I have to live with hurting my daughter and the other children for the rest of my life not only that I'm facing some harsh legal issue and don't know exactly what to expect. Because of my stupidy I may go to jail for a long while and my daughter is stuffing the most out of this... I 've never been in any kind of trouble in my life. I read all the time about DUI accidents and how it affects families.. I'd never would put my daughter or any other kids in harms way. On top of it my insurance was canceled because I was late paying it yes I really screwed up. But I regretful did and now I have face what ever consiquences givien to me. I am scard though not knowing what to expect scard that my daughter has to live without her mom for a while and scared on what imapct it has cause to the other victems. Please is there anybody out there that can give me any advise')
Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 12:02 pm Post Subject:
all I can do is get myself some help for my daughter sake because my actions are not the examples I want to be setting for my daughter I need to be a better mother for her and make better desicions and set better examples.
Absolutely...don't let it eat you up what's done is done...the Lord works in mysterious ways, some times we need slapped around to straighten our act up...be glad no children (or anyone) was killed that could never be fixed this can....you know it took me seeing my (24yr old) son nearly die from alch. poisioning for me to think...you know what I haven't always been the best example as far as drinking goes...not a raging drunk, but like you it crept up on me (one drink is too many 12 not enough) and I got drunk every time I drank, which was weekly...but seeing my boy in an ambulance and the mess he was in knocked me back on my ass, and I had to ask myself what kind of (drinking) example had I set for him? Did I share some blame for this? and made the choice that no other child in my life (only had a great neice on the way at that time, no grand babies yet), would EVER see me drink again. There were of course other problems associated with my drinking as well..but this is the one that hit me....a good mom, will see the error and fix it...you caught yours early...and honey some people (me) cannot drink without crossing the line...so they/we just can't drink...Good luck to you, stay positive, try to always do the right thing...please do let us know the outcome, you are in my prayers.
mama lori
Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 02:09 pm Post Subject: insurance
WOW>>>LORI!! Sounds like you put your life 'back together'. Good for you!!
Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 03:10 pm Post Subject:
Well, my life wasn't falling apart by any stretch of the imagination..that being said, I certainly had a problem with my Busch light, and my gin and tonic :lol: well guess ''i'' didn't really have a problem with it, "I" liked it ALOT! ha ha...
It just FINALLY occured to me that while I consider myself an extremely good mother, (and my kids would say so as well), there was an area I certainly could've done better in...and honestly I knew it for a long long time, but it took an 'event' to open my eyes .... and make the change...I come from a long long line of alcholics, all but me still drink...I didn't go to AA or anything, (mostly out of pride to be honest) but certainly believe in their method, and am glad they are there...
Posted: Sun Nov 23, 2008 02:23 pm Post Subject: insurance
Thanks for the 'background;, LORI. Ya know..i think everyone deals with their pasts in a different way...ie...I had a family member who drank ALOT. This individual DID go to AA meetings and DID take some kind of medication ( sorry, I don't know what it was..) if the person drank while taking this med, he/she would get REALLY sick. This kind of 'behavior' was happening ALOT while I was growing up. Anyway....I drink VERY seldom,..just knowing what 'it' does to destroy families (lack of a better word/sentence). I really love seeing 'happy endings' when it comes to problems, like this, in people's lives. GOOD for you!!
Posted: Mon Nov 24, 2008 03:17 am Post Subject:
I think we can all look back and see things we could have done better as a parent. We all have our first child and thats usually the one you learn from. Mine has taught me quite alot and the road still hasn't been smooth. I still guide him but life will have to be the teacher...it sure was for me. I had a ghost in my closet (black velvet) when I was trying to go through getting over the death of his Dad (kidney cancer). It didn't take a long time to get back up from the bottom but a lot of people still tells him stories and he had always used them against me when I would get on him. I think we are all going to have to see we are far from being perfect but thats ok cause that makes us human...I think its facing up to the fact that we make mistakes that will give us the courage to fix it and move past it. the help is out there...we just have to ask.
Posted: Mon Nov 24, 2008 11:31 am Post Subject: insurance
I think you REALLY narrowed it down, FIREYONE. EVERYONE does make mistakes....I think that's how we ALL learn from life. At times, it's difficult to move on..no matter what the issue is. Sounds like everyone that has posted on this thread is doing a good job at that. :D
Posted: Mon Nov 24, 2008 12:00 pm Post Subject:
You've both hit it on the head, EVERYONE has a demon somewhere that they either eventually overtake or it overtakes them...our poor OP's was public...(ie dui etc)....this by no means says she cannot overcome this and be a better person for it....I know you know this OP, but you are sooooooooo fortunate that your 'ex' is supportive rather than 'coming after' you and your daughter, I hazard a guess that his kind behavior toward you is in the minortiy...
Posted: Tue Nov 25, 2008 12:44 am Post Subject:
I am glad we all agree. I do not like to be judgemental because no one gets through life with out a few mistakes to say the least. I can remember always being told by my religious neighbor that mistakes were OK as long as you learned from them and didn't keep repeating them. I like Lori's explanation about demons..I could not have said it better.
Posted: Tue Nov 25, 2008 02:27 am Post Subject: insurance
Whatever issues we ARE going through, I'm pretty sure we ALL learn from....ie. how we handle it, what's the 'next step', etc. No one has walked in our shoes...everyone is in their 'own stage of life.' We do the best we can.
Posted: Tue Nov 25, 2008 03:22 am Post Subject:
Very true but right now I wouldn't mind borrowing someones elses shoes.
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