by vonnev » Sat Mar 08, 2008 07:07 am
help, we live in california, my 18 yr old daughter has had her license for 2 wks and has had 2 accidents. the first was at a 4 wy stop when she pulled out she thought the driver facing her was going straight also but unfortunately she was turning left in front of my daughter, pretty simple, my daughters fault right and our insurance pays. luckily not alot of damage on our car. the second accident was another 4 way intersection but no stop signs my daughter was getting ready to make a left hand turn and stopped for oncoming car, the other car stopped also and waived my daughter on, the other driver then turned around to talk to her passengers and then without looking back at the road first ran into my daughter after she had already started to make her turn, my daughter and neither of the other drivers called the police either time unfortunately. can my daughter have her license pulled? if the second driver admits fault or is found at fault will her insurance cover the damage to my car even though it had some superficial damage from first accident? is my daughters new license and/or previous accident a liability in second accident as i suspect? can my loan company decide to take back my car? can our insurance drop me? how do they determine fault if the other driver denies it?
Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 12:18 am Post Subject:
True. Kids these days definately need a guiding hand since you can't be with them 24/7,plus sooner or later the have to be able to make responsible decisions on there own. Not studying the drivers book is one of my basic examples about how kids want everything without putting forth effort. I'm not saying every kid out there is like that but I think we need to relize this is becoming the outlook of the younger generation. Hopefully they will relize driving is a priveledge and also a necessity in alot of areas if they are going to prosper. How else are they gonna get to work or from A to B. Sad thing is usually young kids have to lose a priveledge to truly learn how valuable it was.
Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 10:25 am Post Subject:
had to take the written test (open book..
I saw sooooo many people fail the written test (many the 2nd time that day)
How is that POSSIBLE? Were they blind folded? Oh my gosh....flunking an open book test? Can you spell stupid? I've never heard of such a thing! I'm appauled, anyone that flunks an open book test (not to mention twice) should not be able to take it again for three months! that's just crazy! (unless they can't read, that's a different story, but I'm sure wasn't the case)....I certainly don't want to be next to them on the highway at 70mph!
no kidding! :wink:I'm not saying every kid out there is like that but I think we need to relize this is becoming the outlook of the younger generation.
and I lay the majority of this directly at the feet of their parents!Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 01:44 pm Post Subject:
I agree and both disagree with parental liability here. I admit to some responsibility in sheltering my son in the beginning but started seeing the results of my actions almost immediately. Soon as he couldn't get what he wanted from me it was off to Grandmas,grandpas and any other relative he could play. Of course in doing this he would make me look as if I were the mean one. A little later everyone started opening their eyes to the game he was playing. I think here the majority of the blame was held by everyone and The doors of communication weren't open far enough. I would hear " boy I gave the kid $10, Felt bad for him. Why couldn't you give him a couple dollars you are his mom?" I would say that it wasn't being used for the right reasons (drugs..alcohol). Never did any good..not until one by one everyone slowly caught onto his game...by then it was like fighting a losing battle. Hopefully now that he is out on his own all the advice he got from me along the way will sink in...Tried everything else...live and learn is probaly what its going to take.
Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 11:03 pm Post Subject:
I agree and both disagree with parental liability here
but you did do the right thing! What I mean by laying the majority of the blame at the parents feet is the parent that is too concerned with being their childs 'friend' and not making them mad...thus giving and doing everything for them, without the kid facing any concequense for their own actions...or (as tcope mentioned) the driving 'privelege' not a 'right'....too many parents (IMO) just cave and allow their children to grow up thinking the world owes them! maybe I didn't explain this correctly (?)Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 01:51 pm Post Subject:
You explained it fine. I definately agree with you about parents trying to be the teens friend. They need to relize that teenager needs a guidance person not another friend. Yes its great to get along with your teen but this is the time when the need to be shaped into a person who can survive and thrive on their own. Parents signed on for that job when the decided to parent a child. I tell my kids the more you scream like a baby the more I am not going to give in. My boy is on his own , now I have an 11 year old girl to go. Hoping...praying...my guidance helps her through life.
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